There are many instances where you must wait to see best results. It’s good to wait for a green light, for example – it’s necessary to wait for water to boil or for an event in a few weeks.
There are also many instances where we wait for the best time to bring up the subject that we’re dying to discuss, we wait until Monday to start our diet or we wait until we get promoted to start saving money. These instances are often for the sake of “patience” but I believe it’s procrastination disguised as patience.
Procrastination is the evil twin of patience. We write off our excuses in the disguise of patience, of graciousness. We don’t broach the subject that may make our friend uncomfortable because it’s polite to consider other’s feelings first. You must have “patience” with your partner, right? You must be understanding and wait for him to bring up your future. Except for when you’re using patience as a crutch.
There’s a fine line to walk here, I know. I’m sure it differs for everyone but using patience as a crutch is a gateway to becoming a doormat in your life. And becoming dormant! Nobody should go through life as a dormant doormat. You should spend time loving everything and that starts with loving yourself. Loving yourself means stop making excuses for not doing what you want to do or saying what you want to say.
IF YOU WAIT FOR PERFECT CONDITIONS, YOU WILL NEVER GET ANYTHING DONE. [Ecclesiastes 11:4]
Stop waiting for perfect. Stop making excuses. Stop trying to be “godly” and “meek”. You only get one shot at this life and you’re going to be really sad when you get to the end of the line and didn’t DO or SAY what made you happy. Ask for what you need, I promise you will get it. It may not look like what you want, the conversation may derail, you could be terrible at running but please I beg you, do it anyway. Do it all anyway.
Patience is not an excuse.
Today is day twenty in my 31 days of patience series. For all posts in the series,click here.